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CookieMilkyX 
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17.05.2022
13 comments
CookieMilkyX[OP]
17.05.2022 07:09
LinkLet me type!
Come back in 10 minutes!
CookieMilkyX[OP]
17.05.2022 07:13
LinkIt all started in my second semester in school!
HEADS UP: I have online learning, so I use my school Chromebook!
This girl I'm talking about is my classmate, and she emailed me one day about something called 'helping her with the assignments.'
She then explained to me that she is currently failing and is taking care of her little sister that just so happens to be a baby. She says it's too hard for her to be taking care of a baby while being in an online school, and her parents and her other sibling(s) are too busy to take care of. If she fails school by the end of the school year, she'll be sent to military school.
TBC!
CookieMilkyX[OP]
17.05.2022 07:19
LinkSo I thought 'Okay, shouldn't be too hard.'
I have things to do on my end too, so I decided to give her the answers to our assignments. Sometimes I share the assignments to her so she can access it easy.
But this month? Only starting last week and she already gave me a BUNCHLOAD of assignments that she needed answers from, and it was at this point I started wondering.
'I have been told I am the smartest person in class (which, I am most definitely not, proven by my other classmate that just so happens to be smarter than me), so she might be asking me for answers since I'm kind enough to help.' And then 'Shouldn't she be taking a break during classes before helping her baby sibling for a short while?'
All those kinds of thoughts. Even I asked her about the 'asking teachers for help' and she still gave me more assignments to get answers for, and I couldn't help but feel irritated.
Not sure if I'm 'mad' for a reason though...
CookieMilkyX[OP]
17.05.2022 07:26
LinkIt started on March 08, I'm sure
I checked my emails from her.
And I received like around more than 6 assignments to help her with
And this is where she says
"I'm sorry I kept doing this to you, I just need you until I get a better grade. I'm sorry really, but this is the only way I know how to. We just got me tested to see if I have a learning disability and I'm really scared that I'm going to get fun at by my family and friends so it's putting a lot of stress on me." (REWRITTEN IN MY UNDERSTANDING cuz hers is too weird and not clear enough)
She decided to give me different excuse, or more likely adding stuff to her reasoning. I now thought of the possibility that she's lying, but I can't be too sure.
Military school???
Omg
Are you ok?
I also use Chromebook it’s really annoying it restricts everything
*continues waiting
Wow ok you’re way too kind. Maybe you can ask her to go ask her parents to maybe one of them quit and she can explain she can’t handle the workload. You can also turn to the Teachers for help and tell them your stress. The Teachers might help her deal with her problem. You never should have started helping her that way because she’s not actually learning and in exams she will fail anyways. Instead, you can offer to help maybe come over once in a while and you take care of her brother
However i can’t give good advice because I don’t know certain details like if the teachers are kind or if you two know where each other lives.
I just so happen to think I am 'too kind' and I know that I am. But I just didn't think of a reason why I couldn't turn her down. She only gave me about one or three assignments to "HELP" her with, but then the number increases.
I don't think I can tell the teachers; they'll think I'm trying to help a classmate of mine cheat through the school year. And heads up #2: I don't get full scores nor got close to full scores.
I don't actually know where she lives, and I have little experience to taking care of children and siblings... :')
Our teachers are kind! Not sure if they have the time to help though...
I don't think her parents thought to quit just to help her, but I can try. Im betting it won't work though.
*why I should turn her down
sorry i have bad English lol (its my first language and I suck at it for some reason )
It’s ok you don’t suck your language is beautiful actually when I read it I thought your English was good!
Im sorry about this, you should probably try a different approach. Remember, you are NOT responsible for someone elses responsibilities. My guess is that the other smart kid refused her offer on "helping" so shes going to you instead. I feel that your happiness and responsibilities should go first. especially if shes not doing anything else in return or even considering how this could effect you. If you feel that this is starting to effect you negatively I suggest talking to her about how you feel. And if this person is having trouble at home with raising a baby or possibly having a learning disability she should talk to a trusted adult or someone about it. and probably have someone else help her with those issues, because its not your responsibility to.
Also, giving her the answers means shes not learning so she'll be stuck in a cycle of asking people for the answers to pass. Trust me, my sister cheated on her tests because she didnt know it and now shes been stuck in a loop of having to cheat to get by.
You are so kind for helping her and going out of your way, but remember that you also need to take care of yourself. You should always be your first priority, its not "selfish"
So even if it means you need to stop helping her, you should take your own feelings into consideration
Damn that's some good advice-
Thanks :')
I'm grateful for your assistance and care <3