I remember thinking "Oh thank god I'm not a little kid anymore no one can hurt me!" My own boyfriend at the time (age 20) was sexually coercing me and cheating on me. It didn't even register that what he was doing was wrong and it was reallllllly gross stuff. Straight up evilness. Even after that I've been in situations where people in public harassed me, co workers threatened to kick my ass, cops tried to take me to a mental hospital for some minor teenage shit (I didn't do any crime either). It really doesn't stop

I can see that your perspective is "I really don't want to be bothered and prodded at right now. They're not respecting my boundaries and its frustrating." But I can also see that their perspective is "Oh our kid is self-conscious and feels embarrassed by themselves, let's try to make her feel better by making light of the situation but now we're frustrated because she's not co-operating." There's nothing wrong with either side here but no one can really "teach" another person to feel more confident and I do believe feeling **respected** is more important than 'self esteem'. Like, we all have shitty hair days or feel ugly sometimes but that doesn't last as long as the negative feeling of being invaded and inspected. In fact, someone is probably more likely to feel ugly *because* of constant unwanted attention. 1/2

2/2 Basically, I think they should pick their battles better. Its totally normal that you would rather not share certain things that embarrass you. This is a dumb thing and they're micro managing you. I would be kind of worried that you might start feeling uncomfortable sharing your experience if something serious really did happen. I used to be afraid to tell my parents if another kid or adult was mean to me because either I would get punished or nothing would happen. Sometimes even my teachers would make me feel uncomfortable. I had a male gym teacher call me "grandma" constantly because I couldn't run as fast as anyone else and he'd try to get me to ask the mentally ill kid to go on a date with me. It was ****ing freaky and so uncomfortable. This kid would talk to himself and bang his head on things and he'd get violently angry if I got near him. I was really scared!!! I didn't tell anyone because all the adults in my life made me feel stupid for other things that weren't even important.

Idk maybe they think that's not such a big deal since they only have like 10 facebook friends, haha. That's kinda stupid though, it would make them look dumb instead of you. Sometimes you get in situations where you can't snitch or snitching just causes worse problems/does nothing- so you need a friend to help you or just talk about it with. It really sucks when your parents are the last people you'd want to confide in. In my situation with the gym teacher I really felt like if I tried to tell another teacher they would have just dismissed me or blamed me. It would have been nice to have a parent who could have done something to help me but, oh well. Of course I'm just talking about situations that aren't that crazy... Your mom and grandma told me some personal stories where I'm like -- Damn, how are you alive rn? No body kidnapped you and murdered you?? Life gets a little scary once you hit 20, ngl.

You can talk to me anytime you need someone - if you want. I might say something you don't like, but its never to offend you or make you feel bad. I also can't physically punish you, even if I wanted to, haha. That would never be my thing anyway.