Unpopular opinion post

So, i always argue with my friends when i try to explain the point of bullies and annoying "assholes". They always rant about how annoying the bullies are but i dont rant about them anymore. Ive realized every bully and mean person has been through something. Something that we didnt see. Something we cant feel. Something only they know of. So i explain my friends that i am not mad at them and all they say is "ARE YOU DEFENDING THEM!!??" And i say no, i just understand them. Not completely but i understand. Most of the kids who are "dicks" at our school lost a parent. And people just, egnore the fact that THEIR FAMILY DIED- I yelled at my friend today because she said that one of my friends was mean and rude. I told her that he lost his brother, both his parents, and he is very sick right now. She started interrupting me and i tried my best to tell her that everyone who has been through something has to have a flaw. It doesnt have to be huge but its something. Im just trying to explain how i used to be angry.

-angry at bullies. Maybe a few weeks ago. But i definitely know what they have been through. And i cant be angry at them for that

and i have flaws too! I sometimes am an asshole to! and i feel bad right after. So uh just trying to be nicer is helpful. and next time a bully teases you (UNLESS ITS EXTREMELY PERSONAL, CALL A TEACHER FOR THAT) just ignore them or dont talk to them.Then when they calm down, compliment them. And if they tease you for it back, ignore them. IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED PHYSICALLY OR VERY PERSONALLY, CONCERNING SUICIDE OR FAMILY PLEASE CONTACT A TEACHER OR PARENT