I give people too much effort

10 comments
Karizma[OP]
07.11.2025 19:30
LinkIm so tired of being ther e and caring for people just for them to never give that same effort back when i need them
I am rarely outwardly sad, and i try my best not to let my feelings get the better of me but when I DO i just wish there was atleast ONE person there
Karizma[OP]
07.11.2025 19:31
LinkYou dont have to help. You dotn have to comfort me. But just eb there. We can be in a crowd of our friends or just us, injust want presence so i dont feel alone, but that’s apparently too much to ask
Karizma[OP]
07.11.2025 19:33
Linkmy “sister” (found online famly, of sorts) would rather sext her crush, who is like 16 and shes. 18, rather than talk to me when i need her. Im always there when she talks about how shit her life is, ans how no one seems to grt her, but when i ask for her to listen its suddenly “one of my friends is callign and they REALLY want to talk. See you later.” And thrn we dont talk for the resdt of the day
Karizma[OP]
07.11.2025 19:36
LinkI have been waiting for an hiur tot alk to her and she just. Ghosts me. She says shell answer if icall but i called her 4 times to no response. She says shell answer if it ext and i still havent gotten a response
Karizma[OP]
07.11.2025 19:36
LinkNo “sorry i.m busy!” No “not right now”
Nothing.
And its not just rhr, its everyone
Karizma[OP]
07.11.2025 19:37
Linkmaybe its me. Maybe im just annoying. Maybe im making jt wors. I dotn know injsut want to be ok i jsut want to toaj to my friends
Karizma[OP]
07.11.2025 19:39
Linkim so ungrateful
atleast i HAVE friends. Ishiuknt be compakinging
They may not know what to do or perhaps it's a lot on them at once from someone who usually doesn't talk about their issues. Tryna give the best case scenario-
Maybe you need another friend. Not saying to drop this one but the friendship sounds uneven and they might not've expected you to have problems you want to address like that. I think maybe with the next friend you get you should set the mood with your real self as soon as possible. Not overwhelm them at the start or anything, just start small, show you can be more than just content all the time.
You deserve the comfort of someone to rely on just like everyone else you were kind to don't doubt that.
I guess I'm saying you should experiment with others, I don't have the experience in your problem but I do know how it feels to force yourself into silence about your issues. It doesn't feel too good putting it lightly.
You should probably talk to your friends too about how you feel about this, yes be grateful you have friends but it isn't selfish to want comfort from them as well. You could bring it up the next time they try to bail just in case things go south and they deny or smth idk. not sure how they are bro, you know them better ig. ^^'