*pats you* It's just the way it works and in my religion it says that there is no way to stop it. You also choose if you want it to make you stronger. I'm sorry.
You can either emotionally choose if it's going to f*** with you or you could just let it be and kick it in the @$$
I'm not good at explaining things. Typing or in real life. Not many people understand me. *single tear rolls down face*