Im afraid to tell my parents because they say, "Saying your gay, bi, trans, or any other at age 14 or 15 is stupid." I keep telling my parents I have a gay friend. They say, "Is he really though?"

i'm pan and genderqueer (thought i was nonbinary, then genderfluid, then agender, hoo boy i'm still figuring it out). my dad is an ally and he respects pronouns and supports lgbtq+ but my mom is like?? nah @that. she's not homophobic but she can be ignorant and insulting. like for people who don't use the pronouns they were assigned at birth she doesn't "get it",, and she'll be like "oh but he's a she now? or something idk : )" and make a big deal out of it. my mom has said pretty much outright that she wants me to marry a man and have kids which uh,, nO lmao i might be in a relationship with a man but i pretty sure i don't want to get married and i don't want kids