my dillemma
6 comments
baghead[OP]
02.04.2021 13:24
Linki am going through a dilemma. i want the best for my friend. i want them to be happy. i want them to be the happiest they can be. i love them so so much and i want them to be happy. i want them to be satisfied with who they are.
baghead[OP]
02.04.2021 13:27
Linkthis friend says they are trans. i went through a phase like that too where i thought i was a trans male. i am not. i am almost certain it isn't them. i am using them because i don't know how to feel about using either set of pronouns for them. they say they have known since last year. most, i say most because this isn't the case for all trans people, experience telltale signs they weren't born into the right body. i used to be so sure i was a trans male. i found out through research that i wasn't.
baghead[OP]
02.04.2021 13:29
Linkif they decide that this is 100% what is right for them, i will support them all the way. but i know, it's a gut feeling, that it isn't right for them. i just want them to be happy. if they go through with all the surgeries and everything they cant go back. it cant be reversed back to the way it was before. i just want them to be satisfied in their body and in who they are. i don't want them to regret it.
Think about it this way:
You, right now, use certain pronouns. What if your best friend came along, said they knew who you were and what was best for you, and refused to use your preferred pronouns?
Gender identity can change over time, and if you find out you're X instead of Y, that doesn't mean you were NEVER X or that you were Y in disguise. Maybe your friend is going through this- maybe they'll find out they're nonbinary instead. Maye your friend actually is just trans.
But it isn't up for you to decide if they're trans or not, it's only up to you to decide if you want to support them or not.
thanks so much for this!! this helped out a lot. I'm just wondering--am i a bad person for feeling this way?? i use his pronouns and call him a guy and a boy and support him irl i just called them they on the site to kinda hide his identity- i just want him to be happy. like if he knows that he's never ever going back then that's ok with me! i support him 1000000000000000000000000%.
