"stop beating urself up over
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MaxiTheNerd 
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02.01.2025
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MaxiTheNerd[OP]
02.01.2025 06:01
Link"stop beating urself up over ur past mistakes"
actually how, telling me to move on doesnt help me understand...
MaxiTheNerd[OP]
02.01.2025 06:02
Link"u just gotta move on" dude how am i supposed to do that i dont undertstand im going to trhow myself out my WINDOW i cnant keep dealing wit these thoughts. ..slahs jok
MaxiTheNerd[OP]
02.01.2025 06:03
Linki have taken my meds for a week straight whycant my meds justfix all my problemsbruh
MaxiTheNerd[OP]
02.01.2025 06:04
Linkthinking about how stupid i acted makes me want to actually die so abad like why would i do tha t oh my goddddddddd
MaxiTheNerd[OP]
02.01.2025 06:05
Link"forgive urself" what if i think i dont deserve ot bru
MaxiTheNerd[OP]
02.01.2025 06:05
Linki miss my dsicord friends
MaxiTheNerd[OP]
02.01.2025 06:09
Linktime for more food i ,loveee being fat slob omg food is so fricking good
MaxiTheNerd[OP]
02.01.2025 06:12
Linkis there therapists u can talk 2 thru text
That is indeed counterproductive, moving on and forgiving takes many different forms depending on the person!! So assuming it’s the same for everyone wouldn’t be helpful for it would be as useful as assuming it’s easy to do so!!!
yeah...,,, i have literlaly no idea what to do... just waiting and hopefully ill just. stop remembering it liek a do with anything i leanrn in school
its difficult to learn how. you basically gotta figure out how to box some thoughts up into "well its in the past, and all i can do is grow and learn from it" and just tuck them away and force soem acceptance. cause thats what you gotta do. and self reflect regularly to see if youve actually grown as a person. seeing those things as mistakes is already growth, and working towards being better shows you are not the same as when they happened. you are a different person now, and you need to realize and accept that, dont beat yourself up over it, because you should know you wouldnt repeat those same mistakes, showing that you are now better for it.
i tried tucking it away and forcing myslef to think its ok and accept it but it just keeps coming back because i know i dont actually think its ok
you cant tuck it away until the acceptance happens unfortunately cause thats just called bottling it up, and isnt healthy. look at your mistakes and ask yourself. "do i know what i did wrong? would i let it happen again? have i worked towards making sure things like that dont happen again?".. guess what. if you answered "yes, no, yes", youve grown as a person, and become a better person than you were when those mistakes were made. remind yourself of that until it feels true. do not beat yourself up over actions you wouldnt do, even if it happened in the past. because thats not who you are anymore
this helps actually thankyoi i will try to reflect everu day. i definitely dont like the way i acted and i do not want to do it again but i bottle up a lot of stuff and it just comes out in a nhorrible manner ,, im trying to get therapy but i don t want t keep messing up
and it often just comes down to cutting the negative thoughts short. once you realize youre beating yourself up again, you have to think to yourself, like actually say in your mind, that you are learning, and doing the best you can, even if it doesnt feel true. because building a habit of bad thought only makes it easier to bog yourself down. ylu have to forcefully break that habit, and it will be uncomfortable at first. after reminding yourself that you are learning, and doing the best you can to not be shit, you need to change what youre thinming about, find a distraction. dont let negative self talk fester needlessly
yeah, mindfulness is a helpful skill to learn. just trying to be aware of how you are feeling at all times, and noticing if it gets bad, and trying to handle it appropriately, like removing yourself from the situation until you can handle it calmly, or finding distractions to help put you in a better mental state to handle things. taking breaks before handling stuff is important, and letting other people know you need to take a moment is a responsible thing to do
im going to keep trying i often forget stuff so i will try to do it every day to remember
yesthis is really helpful, hthank you i will try remember everything u said and ill just keep trying to do better, thank you for the help i really appreciate it